The Two Most Underdeveloped Muscles… the Heart and Will!

So, we work out our bodies and our minds so that we look great physically and stay sharp mentally; but what about the other two, much more important muscles, the heart and the will? Oh, didn’t realize that these are muscles that have to be worked out in order to be optimal? Why is that do you think? Is it because in our current cultural condition we are much more consumed with our appearances than our good deeds? Probably. But I’m going to contend here for a new need for Cultural Revolution, one with a greater emphasis on our character and caring as opposed to our current obsession with aesthetics and knowledge. I know, this coming from a woman who is very aesthetically driven! But we really tend to place way too much importance on looks and intellect; not that they aren’t wonderful things to possess, but those are not the things that make us great and they are not what our world needs more of right now, as evidenced by the rise in violence, discourse, distrust, hate crimes, civil unrest, uncontrollable outbursts, road rage, random shootings, etc…etc…etc… something has got to change and fast!

So, I was thinking we could start with two things we can actually do something about! Ha! Imagine? I can, because I have personally been working-out these two forgotten muscle groups for some time now and as of late, with some urgency and with more weight. And, as with everything else, before you can give advice you must first work it out in your own life and with a certain amount of results to report, otherwise you’re just blowing smoke – another thing we don’t need more of in this world. (from cigarettes and fires that is ;))

First, before delving into the mechanics of working out your heart and will in your life, it’s important to point out the fact that we are co-creators in this world. Here is where I explain how God has given us the ability and responsibility to share in the creation of this world. This disclaimer I make for all of you who are still under the delusion that we have not been created and that what we do has no bearing on what befalls our world. I believe that since God created us “Imago Dei” or “In His Image” (and that does not mean in appearance it means with some of the same attributes) that we share in the responsibility of all creation in the world. One of the attributes God bestowed upon us is our ability to CREATE! We create with words, actions, emotions, even imaginings. So with that in mind, it is obvious that if we don’t learn how to work out our hearts and wills in a way that benefits not just ourselves & those we love but the whole world around us then we will continue to fall farther and farther from truth and love; the two most important things that we can not only possess but give and are in desperate need of!

So how does this flesh out? First of all, we are not victims of circumstance, rather we are creating ourselves moment by moment via our responses to what happens to us! How we respond to what life throws our way demonstrates to ourselves, God and to others who we are. The choices we make in life directly affect outcomes on all levels. We need strength of heart and will in order to make the best choices.

Here are some examples of how to work out your heart and your will daily for maximum results.

To Work Out Your Heart:

  • Begin each day with an attitude of gratitude. Go through each and every thing that you are grateful for; from breath in your lungs to a roof over your head to all the people in your life that love you and that you get the opportunity to show love to. When I was going through one of the worst times in my adult life my then pastor’s wife warned me of the dangers of “feeling sorry for myself”, what I call ‘licking your wounds syndrome’. The best way NOT to fall victim to feeling like a victim is to inventory everything you can be grateful for and thank God for those things and move on! It also helps you to not be an angry person!!!
  • Practice the art of self-denial. This is a very powerful one! We are so privileged and spoiled in America, we are used to just getting whatever we want whenever we want but that just makes us complete jerks. Start denying yourself small pleasures and then build up to larger things. Like start with denying yourself dessert and then move up to costly indulgences. Guaranteed the others in your life will be happier around you when you choose to deny yourself!
  • Be others-centric instead of self-centered! The greatest killer of your heart is self! You cannot love others if you are always putting yourself and your interests above theirs. Our hearts should be put into practice on others: their needs, interests, cares, burdens, joys, etc.
  • Always be suspicious of yourself and your motives!  Humans are the great pretenders, we lie to everyone but mostly we lie to ourselves to try to feel better about ourselves. Bad move! Socrates said, “The un-examined life is not worth living.” So explore your motives and make adjustments daily. Become more about placing others first and yourself last.

To Work Out Your Will:

  • Never underestimate the power of the human will. One of the most amazing free forces in the universe is our will. It can trump our fleshly needs (like food and water), our emotions, our physiology, our intellect, our logic, our perceptions and even our morality or desires! We can will ourselves to do or be almost anything! So, imagine if this force never goes unchecked! Scary, really! (Just think, D. Trump)
  • Be mindful of all of your choices and decisions. Sometimes impulse can be exciting, romantic, magical, and even, in some instances, the best choice. However, we really should be mindful of all that we do and say at all times. Follow out everything to its logical end BEFORE just acting out.
  • Resist cravings! And I’m not just talking food here. Go back to the “practice the art of self-denial” for this one. Start small and continue to strengthen your ability to resist what your flesh, emotions, thoughts and others influences want you to do. RESIST! It is very powerful and smart. Whatever we feed ends up being our master! Don’t let anything or anyone have control over you except for God. He is ultimately the only One who actually cares more for us than we do ourselves!
  • Set strict limitations on yourself. Self-imposed limits keep us within boundaries that we can decide upon. If you can will yourself TO DO something then you can will yourself NOT to do something!
  • Do all that you do with purpose & care.  Whether it is just walking down the street or writing the next great American novel, be purposeful. In relationships, in conversation, in activities, whatever – don’t be a person whose response always seems to be “whatever”. Work out your will by concentrating on all that you do and say and think and make sure that it passes the purpose and care test. Does what you are about to do or say mean something and what? Does what you are about to do or say show that you care? If you answer, “Not really” to either one of those questions than don’t do or say it! It’s just that simple. Never act out of fear, or hate, a displaced passion, without concern, out of temptation, purely reactionary or “just because”!

The following quote is one of my personal favs! It is so powerful in fact that the late, great Nelson Mandela used it in his inauguration speech! Oh, and I used it in my first novel, Ju’stice

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” – Marianne Williamson

In summation, it is incumbent for us all to realize that we are powerful. God has given us hearts, minds, spirits and wills that can either create or destroy by even the slightest of moves. This should be enough to motivate us to be more loving, mindful and purposeful about all that we do, but look around you and you’ll see that it isn’t. We very rarely make decisions out of logic, truth and unconditional love. We need to condition our hearts and wills to use our power for good and for the good of all.

Be blessed, be kind, be forgiving, be an example, be strong, be thoughtful, be courageous, be patient, be more selfless, be humble, be considerate, be encouraging and uplifting, be honest, be trustworthy and always be hopeful! Never give up, never give in, never loose faith and endure through hard times so that you can encourage others in their hardships and struggles! If you heed these directives than you will experience a power unlike any other, the power that comes from working out those two most important and yet largely undeveloped, magnificent muscles.

Love til it hurts! -ck ❤️🙏💋


feeling that spring fever thing…

spring 2017
Spring Fever

Its in the air. It invades my senses. It assaults my complacency, as it lifts my imaginings into some other higher sphere.  Its Spring Fever and it fills me to overflowing! 🦋

I really love the youthful exuberance of this season; everything feels new and the possibility of newness excites me. Intoxicating in a good way, you know? 😜

So it got me to thinking; I’d love to experience  synesthesia in some form or another at sometime in my life. I think it would be so cool to smell a symphony  or listen to the color purple or  glance at the aroma of fresh cut spring flowers ! This biological phenomena in which the senses get crossed fascinates me. I wonder if perhaps we could figure out a way to control our wirings and cross our senses at will! But that’s just how weird sci-fi writers think 💭 …plus, dat kush! 😉

I’ll leave you with the lyrics to my favorite Cat Stevens song, The Wind 💨 I don’t know why, just somehow felt right 😜 IMG_6158

– CK, love ❤️ til it hurts!

…strange similarities in self portraits

While conducting research into the life of artist Vincent Van Gogh I surprisingly uncovered some eerie similarities between myself and the tortured genius. I’ll list them:

– we are both Dutch (although I am only partly Dutch)
– we are both fascinated by and in love with Japanese art, culture & people
– we both love God and are burdened by social justice; especially justice for the poor
– we both have lived in poverty
– both highly emotional & intense
– never able to excel at or keep “regular jobs”
– only fulfilled by working at our art
– both described by others as being selfless, compassionate and idealistic
– favorite color – yellow
– hold a strong belief that the Bible should be taken literally and that most ordinary church practices are in error and contrary to the teachings of Jesus
– both determined to give happiness by creating beauty
– live sacrificially for God and others
– and very much like Van Gogh’s “post-impressionistic” works, my writing is not based on painting an accurate depiction of life for my readers, but rather my writing takes a much more philosophical and introspective approach…painting a storyline from my own perspective of how I view the world.

I sincerely hope the likenesses end there for this artistic genius was also emotionally disturbed and tormented for much of his adult life which ended in suicide.

It has been said that there cannot be great art without great suffering – I can attest to that…the greatest of all of course is Christ!

Van Gogh’s love and passion are best demonstrated in his art but also in the over 700 letters that he wrote to his beloved brother Theo. You can read them online, I highly recommend.


The Inexhaustible Power of Humility!

01af27f156cd1948d2e6850f4d3d9ec860258c3d0eWell, that may seem like an oxymoron! How can humility be powerful? 

What is power? Is power in position? Is it in wealth? Is it in status? The ocean is powerful and I am humbled in its presence. This Bo (my stick) is powerful in the hands of a skilled martial artist; but even more powerful in the hands of such a skilled martial artist that just the mere appearance of them makes others back away in fear (like Bruce Lee par example). So, without even having to strike, its power is manifest out of humbly not exerting it!

Perhaps the answer can be found in a powerfully humble quote: (one of my favorites) “I believe that unarmed truth & unconditional love will have the final word in reality. This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant!” – MLK

Martin Luther King, Jr. was not only a man who believed in the power of humility but actively demonstrated it over and over again in his very powerful ministry and message to the world. Probably because he also believed (as do I) that the greatest example of power in humility was and still is Jesus. He said, “Blessed are the humble, for they will inherit the earth!” (Matthew 5:5) The most powerful example of all time was that God humbled Himself in the person of Jesus Christ to demonstrate to this whole world that taking a lower position actually can make you greater and more powerful. He even told his disciples when they were arguing over who was greater that if you wanted to be first in God’s economy you had to put yourself last; a servant of all is the greatest of all!

Why am I talking about the power of humility anyway? Because I believe it (humility) is our greatest need and one of the hardest arts to hone in our lives. We want to be proud, but pride is weakness. Pride steals from us, fools us, lessens us. It offers a false sense of superiority and power when really you know inside that you are not superior and your power is finite.

So what’s my point? We are responsible creatures, another oxymoron. So clothe yourself in humility if you wish to shine brightly to a world hiding in the darkness and straining to see the truth.

Love ’til it hurts – CK



Into 2016… thoughts & prayers

My heart is grieved at yet another senseless, tragic and horrific shooting! And not just a shooting, but a mass shooting, a horrific hate crime and to top it off, a sadistic act of terror! I had just decided to start blogging again after a few years and then this! And so close to home; my daughter was even at that Orlando club with some friends before!

Bono has a lyric; its so simple yet so powerful and if we could just internalize it for real… “transformational”! “There is no Them; there is only US!” It really is that simple yet that profound!

Ok, so I’m gonna get all philosophical now, so if you don’t like that then just stop reading right now!

Really! I mean it! 🤓

Jesus commanded us to love others as we love ourselves – the hardest commandment of all – but what if we could just see everyone else as ourselves and respect them that way; but I suppose that is too much to ask of this generation. So we are left with PRAYER! But prayer is so powerful, it is hardly something to just be left with. We can also lead by example. Love is so hard though, isn’t it? To truly love others REQUIRES much from our lives and is such an imposition – this is what  people think inside but never say. As humans we are responsible for our words, our actions and even our thoughts. What we do here on this Earth matters and has consequences – good or bad. But above all, we NEED to LOVE – if we don’t and don’t make some serious changes in our hearts and actions, then we (this generation) will have done our own end. But God, in His Infinate Mercy and Grace, has made every provision so that we would have no excuse except to just outright reject Him. God teaches us the meaning of TRUE LOVE and gives us the POWER to live it out. Love is the fulfillment of the law and it really IS what the world needs now… Perhaps more than ever. 💙💚💛💜❤️

I’ll conclude with a few crucial words to live by: humility, compassion, patience, kindness, thankfulness, forgiveness, and grace… in all things and with all people. Keep these always as your attitude and you can’t go wrong! Never esteem yourself above anyone else (no matter who that might be) and practice the art of a quiet and content spirit!

Ok, that’s my peace for now… later – CK! 🏹